Brandon is an amazing husband. He is my rock!! I know that he will always be there for me. He loves me unconditionally. He is funny but very ornery. This man never and I mean never gets angry....You have to try really hard to get him steaming! (Not that I try to do it) It has actually only happened one time, but I am sure that it will happen more as life goes on. He is also very loud.....always making some kind of noise..... either whistling or singing or bird calls.
Sometimes I think, Is something going to happen?? My parents are not happy...Half the time they can not stand each other.Is that going to happen to Brandon and I? They do not have a perfect marriage. My dad is not the nicest man to be around and my mom is very stubborn. (Brandon says that I am stubborn, i don't know what he is talking about!) But my mom loves him unconditionally....No matter what he does, yeah she gets upset and yells back at times. But in her heart, she loves him. My dad, I don't really know. I guess he does not show his feeling very well..... It will not happen in our marriage because we have seen what happens and all the heartache that comes along with it.
Something that I really need to work on is opening up with Brandon, telling him how I am feeling. I know that I have put up a wall because I don't want to get hurt. I don't want him to leave me. I don't talk to Brandon about the way that I feel. I have always held it inside. And I know that he is hurt because I don't open up. I really don't know how. But I know that he loves me and will ALWAYS be there for me.
Right now I am reading a book called, Love & Respect. It is a great book. It says that a women needs to be loved and a man need to be respected. For example: a woman may say.... you don't love me, and the man feels disrespected by her saying that and that in turn has him lash out unlovingly.
Right now I am reading a book called, Love & Respect. It is a great book. It says that a women needs to be loved and a man need to be respected. For example: a woman may say.... you don't love me, and the man feels disrespected by her saying that and that in turn has him lash out unlovingly.
Ephesian 5:33- "However, each one of you MUST love his wife as he loves himself and the wife MUST respect her husband."
I have memorized that verse....and quoted it many times. But I never really knew what it said. This is a command saying that I must respect my husband. I know that at times I don't. I say things that are not nice...I know that I am just joking but still it comes out as unloving and disrespectful. I am trying really hard to show him and tell him how much I respect him. Because I love him with all my heart!!! I recommend this book. I am not finished. But so far it is great, It is for people whose marriage is falling apart, those whose marriage is wonderful but you want to make it better, even for engaged couples.
I want my marriage to be filled with laughter and joy. I know that sometimes it will be filled with tears, but Brandon and I will be side by side with God leading the way.I can't wait for Brandon and I to hit the one year mark!!!
God Bless
Stacey
Beautiful post Stacey! I'm so glad God brought you Brandon!
ReplyDeleteI was a very closed off person before I got married as well. Travis on the other hand is very open. He was so patient with me and would sit in silence for an hour until I was ready to talk if that's what I needed. He really taught me how to open up and be honest with others and myself. Now he regrets it because I won't shut up :) JK - he appreciates it still. But now I will say I'm an open book, if you ask, I'll tell :)
love you friend!
I love this Stacey!
ReplyDeleteIt makes me feel so encouraged as a future wife to see you growing. I'm so happy you're going to be there to teach me things.
I'm so sorry to hear about Mittens. I did not know. :(
I was always afraid Chris would leave me too..so I set out (at first not realizing it) to make sure I left him first. Horrible! I'm glad you are choosing to work through it instead of adding extra bricks to the wall. Our men love us and want to be our protectors. Even though it's hard, it's so worth opening up. I can't promise you won't ever get hurt, but I can promise you will grow! You are doin great. I love watching you two together. Your love is sweet.
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